Oh oh catch that buzz/Love is the drug I’m thinking of…
Well, yeah… That is one way to go thru life, eternally hunting for the next high that the first whiff of love invariably generates.
Indeed, the early phases of love often feel like a euphoric drug induced state!
And there’s actually a good reason for that! According to some super modern research, feelings of love affect the brain in similar ways as powerful pain relievers do!
So guess what happens when you get used to the object of your affection and those intense emotions are replaced with feelings that are more negative in nature? Such as annoyance, resentment or boredom? Well, that pleasure reward area in your brain that was being stimulated in those early weeks of courtship is no longer getting that tingle. Know what we’re sayin’?
So at this point many of us simple humans (not you smart scientists that are conducting all those studies) remove ourselves from the said situation thru sabotage, drama, or simply run away. Now we feel like crap on toast until we fall in love again with someone new. And the cycle continues as we fall in and out of love again and again… doesn’t that sound like an addiction? And what about that dream you have of spending your life with someone you love? Is it all gone up in a puff?
Why are we finding ourselves in these situations where: oh, that person loved me too much… and this person totally ignored me… and maybe I’m better off alone in the end…but oops I’m in another up and down relationship… exhausting!
Well we’re here to tell you that Love is not crack! Love does not have to be an erratic evil rollercoaster all the time. And although, being in love is the most amazing thing you can ever feel, it’s not going to work as a patch up to your existential woes. It’s not gonna be your foolproof anti depressant, it’s not gonna be an everlasting high, basically it’s not going to work in your life if you misuse it as a drug, for the simple reason that it is not a drug.
On the real love blog, our aim is to show you how to sustain love, so that beautiful amazing earth shattering feeling you had in the beginning can be preserved and become something to build you life on.
We know how possible it is because we did it!
And although our love generates endorphins and a lot of chemistry we’ve come to recognize it’s waves and patterns and know how to ride with it.
Love is not the drug ( sorry Roxy Music), although we do love the song.
If it was really a drug it’s power would only be a temporary high and it is so much more than that!