Ok, there are a lot of different ways to interpret this particular set of words being proposed to someone, many of which could certainly refer to things like “50 Shades of Grey” or any number of delicate matters of that nature, but in this context, let us please assure you that this post will not include any embarrassing content. J
The subject title this week is referring to that amazing feeling we get when we look into the eyes of the thing that loves us most on earth besides our dear mama. Ladies and gentlemen we are talkin’ bout your dog, (or in many cases: your cat or really any pet that can reciprocate attention in a way that takes all of your cares away when you are around them).
Have you ever experienced, especially in the early stages of romance, that earth stopping moment when you forget time and space as you peer into the face of that certain someone?
Any cares you might have had are gone during the whole time you are with them.
There are no issues important or urgent enough to break the spell you are willingly under at that instant.
And that is why it feels so good… It brings you to that state, that religion, meditation or drugs all attempt to take you to with varying degrees of success.
It brings you to the ever-elusive present moment.
So when we quote The Stooges late sixties anthem: “I Wanna Be Your Dog” , what we are saying is: I want to be the one person on the whole earth that can bring you so much joy and love that it will bring you relief from all your troubles.
Easy enough when love is fresh and new but how do you achieve that in a long-term relationship?
One way is you create triggers and associations that magnetize the both of you to the here and now!
Creating some room for fun in the relationship is key to retaining that present moment high! Obviously no one can sustain that all the time, but finding ways to be silly together, even during tougher times or creating rituals within the relationship are quick ways to bring you towards enjoying the present.
When you are with someone for a long time it’s too easy to slip (and remain) into language patterns and behaviors that focus on our life problems and issues. Issues about the kids, the bills, the plumber, the toothpaste cap…
But this isn’t what got you together in the first place. You first got together because when you did you were truly existing in and feeling the moment, nothing could take you away from eachother.
What about now? What are you doing to be eachother’s dog? What are you doing to trigger a smile from your partner whenever he or she looks at you?
That moment could be a minute, an hour or a day, but the point is not to forget that one of the initial reasons you fell in love in the first place is that it gave you relief from pain. This is an important and beautiful notion that we need to remember in the course of our relationship.
So go wag your tail at your loved one right now and urge them to take you for a walk, go for ice cream, or sit in the grass, or even make a plan to paint a picture together in all 50 shades of grey ( hum…)
Well you get the point! That moment we’re talking about might not take very long, but it might be the most important thing you do all day! Woof, Woof!