Sh*t happens… Trust us after 3 decades together, while building our amazing relationship, we’ve seen a lot!
We’ve changed, our environment’s changed, our friends have changed, our habits, our music preferences, our tastes in furniture, our routines and even our minds have changed on various matters!
All, up for change.
The world is a huge organic mass moved by time and bound by our awareness,
And it evolves whether we choose to join it or not . Whenever we try to hold on to our old notions a little too long, well… the world laughs and changes anyway.
A relationship is similar in that the sum of it’s parts is greater then… (oh, how does that go again?)
Anyway, all this to say, that as individuals, we must sometimes agree to go thru some sort of transformation, in order to best serve our relationship. We can try to move it to suits our needs, but you know what? Good luck with that.
It’s bigger then we are. It knows more then we do . It works on levels we don’t even have names for. It’s pretty damn smart this thing we call love!
It’s complex weaves of energy, organic matter, non verbal, historical, and conscious behavioral factors are so way out of grasp that it’s no wonder we try so hard to grasp at the things we know just so we can feel like we’re not losing our balance completely.
When things happen outside of our personal power and we feel overwhelmed, if we have built a strong love bond within the relationship then it’s safe to just let it take over.
It may sound strange to hear us refer to love as if it can act independently of us, but that is exactly what we are saying.
Although It is in our nature to seek to ultimately control everything we don’t understand, this only seems to lead us to even less control and even less love wisdom.
Sometimes there’s really nothing to be said, sometimes the eyes know how reflect what we feel more then the tongue ever could.
Sometimes a single touch means more then a year’s worth of words.
Sometimes the silence that hangs in the room as we are in it together is so full of knowing that we don’t have to disturb it.
The moments when we truly let love takeover are rare, because we are so jammed up with external noise and stress and expectations that we forget to listen to that ultimate connection we have with each other and the world.
Uncertain times sometimes bring out the worst in us, especially when we are afraid.
Fear is a basic instinct essential for our survival but love is that higher power essential for evolution. As two people in love for over thirty years, we can say that love is what got us thru everything every time.
Love is the most powerful link we have as humans. And sometimes it just knows better.