How clutter busting in 2016 could improve your love life.
Remember when you went away with your loved one last?
The hotel room was really nicely furnished with just the essentials and the bathroom had enough soap for just a week.
Nothing was superfluous (even if you chose a five star retreat.)
While you were there you could think clearer, things seemed simpler easier, sexier even. You saw your partner in a different way.
You saw them as… your lover again.
Everything flowed differently. You wore mostly the same pieces of clothing but in a different way during your stay. You walked slower. You took time to breathe. You held hands.
Maybe you even danced…
Point is, you enjoyed each other’s company again. It became not about chores and the accumulation of stuff, but about human connection in the most basic (and lovely) way possible.
Before coming home you vowed you would not let stress affect you again and that you would savor and keep this feeling for as long as possible…
But of course once you got home it didn’t last… the stress came back strong as life settled into the busy party that is our existence.
Ever wonder if a big part of that stress was about the stuff?
And if you tend to be a clutter bug, your life is even more of a cluster f*ck! Hello super high stress levels and anxiety!
Maybe our lives are getting too packed to truly enjoy. Maybe the stuff we work so hard to accumulate is drowning out the voice of intimacy, of connection, of true bliss between each other.
Think about it: why do we pay thousands of dollars to get away in a room that’s 1 forth of most of our homes (at least) if it isn’t to just reacquaint ourselves with nature, our truer selves and our partner?
Why do we let ourselves get so distracted with our possessions and our quest for more possessions that we forget to connect with the one thing that can actually love us back?
Maybe it’s time we look around and assess what it is we are trying to accomplish here. Are we trying to create a beautiful environment for our loved one and us to enjoy and enable our love to flow?
Or are we just robotically listening and acting on a yearning that is artificially inserted into our modern day “programing”?
There is no way a single human can manage the amount of stuff we are expected and encouraged to accumulate and not be majorly distracted from love’s main principles. (Please note, that when we say stuff we are also including information clutter.)
So we propose - not exactly doing away with your precious earthly belongings- but maybe going on a bit of a stuff diet and looking deep into the abyss of the bottomless pit that is desire and see if it’s time to reevaluate what it means to create a love nest. Where you can actually both SEE each other thru all your crap, and appreciate your time together.
We at The Real Love Blog propose: Let’s make 2016 the year love guides us in our choices, our actions and how we choose to create a sacred space where our relationship has an environment to grow and flourish.